Comments on: Green Dots and Fairness

By: MultipleMum

MultipleMum — Fri, 17 Sep 2010 03:35:54 +0000

What a great post! I like your distinction between ‘equal’ and ‘fair’. I agree that this needs to be the case for all of our kids. I hope to remember this when I get my first “That’s not fair Mummy!”. Thanks for the link.

By: rony

rony — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 07:19:10 +0000

i was so much relieved to read your words it was as if you were living with me i’m living this dilemma every day i’ll try to do it your way though it doesn’t seem easy at all

By: Kelli

Kelli — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 17:10:45 +0000

This is almost exactly what happened this year with my 8 year old twins. It may have even been the same color dots! We made it through that but I have a new dilemma. Mason has just made the all-star baseball team and Michael did not (Mason is also the one whose reading level went up). It’s tough. But you are right, fair is not equal. Too bad 8 year old boys just don’t understand that.

By: A Little Look Ahead. | picklebums.com

A Little Look Ahead. | picklebums.com — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 02:23:05 +0000

[...] you know they can read now? They can read, you know… books. OK so they still need some help with words here and [...]

By: Christie

Christie — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 06:45:04 +0000

“Being fair is not always being equal. Being ‘fair’ means that everyone gets what they need when they need it.”

Love these words of wisdom, Kate.

By: Kelly Burstow

Kelly Burstow — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 19:56:20 +0000

I LOVE THIS! I especially love it when you said: “Being fair is not always being equal. Being ‘fair’ means that everyone gets what they need when they need it.”

I agree! Having twins would make this tricky as you can’t say, “Well, the are older than you.” With sibblings, it not always equal is it. I can’t be exactly equal in my time, in what I say or in a lot of things; even if I try really hard. And yet, I can be fair by giving my children what they need. So very true.

By: Lulu

Lulu — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 08:00:23 +0000

That would be hard. I mean it would be easier to manage when their is an age difference ie ” so and so can do that because he is older. You can do it when you turn 5″ or what not but with twins. DOUBLE HARD!

I think you did it well though and I hope they are BOTH reading green dots soon!

By: WarsawMommy

WarsawMommy — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 07:27:35 +0000

Yes, I popped over from Breanda’s to see you ;)

I am sure this is hard – with twins, there must be this huge assumption that things will always and forever be the same and equal. Tough one to handle… but I think your attitude is just great.

By: amanda

amanda — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 07:17:13 +0000

I tend to get “But Muuuuuuum!” and I only have the one!

Good on Zoe! It may not be fair that they have different strengths, but that is what it is. If Zoe just picks up words better then she is lucky, and I am sure Izzy has something that she picks up quicker too, and then it will be Zoe’s turn to think it isn’t fair. They will, eventually work it out and appreciate each others differences.

In 20 years most likely …. LOL

By: Brenda

Brenda — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 06:10:28 +0000

Wow! wise words there, Mama Kate. Dear Brain, please try to remember Kate’s wise words.=)

and hey, Happy FYBF!