My crown has slipped just a little of late. One of the big jewels on the front has fallen off and is lost somewhere under the couch with the three week old toast, odd socks and all the school coloured hair bands. I am not so much ‘Queen of my Home‘ at the moment, as warden of the dungeon and the poor tormented souls who inhabit this dark and smelly place.
Things got turned upside down and put on hold when the Father Figure got sick, but that was weeks ago now, and I can no longer use that as an excuse for me not having my stuff together. I need to get a handle on this new routine before I drown in unwashed clothes and unread readers.
I’d really like to rock a routine here at the Pickle Farm. I imagine how smoothly life would run with a nice predictable routine to guide our days. I dream of how organised I’d be and how the kids would know what was happening on any given day and how I wouldn’t have to drive back to school for a second time because of forgotten violins or show and tell or lunch.
I’m not good with routines though.
I have good intentions… but the wheels fall off when something pops up that isn’t on my list, and somehow, something always seems to pop up. Plus, I’m lazy. If I can get away with not doing something or putting it off, I will. I daydream about how a routine would magically fix this character flaw but in reality I know it won’t.
So a rigid routine is lost on me… but I am not giving up all together!
I’m going with my strengths instead of my failings.
I like to plan. I like to write lists. I like calendars. I like to tackle tasks one chunk at a time.
I’m going for rhythm and systems.
Rhythm – It’s hard to spell, but it’s really just a fancy way of saying routine that doesn’t sound so scary to us routine-a-phobes.
My take on a daily rhythm is less rigid than a routine, with no set times and less guilt when you detour from the day’s tasks. More of a predictable flow so that we all know what to expect from each day.
I’m aiming for some corner stones in our day to stay at roughly the same time to help us keep on track and feel a little less scattered. School has helped us find a daily rhythm, so two of our ‘corner stones’ will be the coming and going to school as those never change and I can’t put them off, no matter how much I want to. We are pretty good at having a family dinner at roughly the same time every day too, so that’s another stone to anchor us.
I’m also going to work on a morning flow and an after school flow. These seem to be the times that go pear shaped the quickest so I suspect we’d all benefit from some predictability and organisation.
Systems – Another catch phrase which I’m using to describe little tips and tricks to make bits of my day work better. Kind of like a ‘chunkerizer’.
Kate Says Stuff is the queen of systems and she is teaching me about the joys of having a workable plan in place, especially when comes to tasks I don’t like much.
Things like school lunches, making little ham rolls in bulk, wrapping them and freezing enough for a whole week has made one of my least favourite tasks more bearable. Menu planning which has made the task of shopping and cooking dinner a lot easier to manage.
I still need to come up with a system for the laundry, and one for keeping on top of the school paperwork, not to mention something for general housework, but I’m getting there, slowly but surely.
So how about you?
Are you a strict routine kind of person or a no routine at all?
Have you got the perfect system for laundry?
Are you Queen of your home at the moment?