Sometimes it feels like you’ll never keep your head above water. No matter how hard you try you are always drowning in problems and difficulties. Sometimes it feels like nothing ever goes right and this bad patch will never end…
But it will.
I’m sure it will…
And in the mean this is how I get through a bad patch…
I am not one of those odd people who enjoy doing house work, so I know this sounds crazy, but even if I just clean up one little area of the house I feel better. If I can get on top of the laundry, or tidy up the living room or clear the kitchen bench, then I feel a little better. Perhaps it’s because I feel like I can at least change and improve something, even if it is not the thing that is bothering me most or perhaps I just feel like I can control at least one part of my life. Whatever it is, cleaning something helps.
Let go of perfection
It’s ok to send them to school with a lunch order. It’s ok to have frozen veggies at dinner. It is ok to just ‘get by’ for a while and not be at your best all the time. My new mantra is pictured above – ‘done is better than perfect’ – and I am taking this on dropping the stress of perfection.
Do something physical.
When I’m frustrated I like to pull weeds, or hack at a vine. Taking out all that frustration on stupid, over grown, weeds is a fabulous release. If gardening is not your thing then maybe taking it out on a poor defenseless soccer ball might help?
Get in the Shower
There is something about letting that hot water pour down over my head that seems to wipe out the rest of the world for a little while. Even if I have to wait till everyone is in bed asleep to get one, there is something calming and restorative about a shower that is worth it’s weight in gold.
Phone a friend.
I am lucky to have someone in my life who parents in a similar way to me and who has children of a similar age. Spending an afternoon on her couch is the best kind of therapy there is and it always makes me feel better. Just realising you are not alone, that you are in fact not the worst parent in the entire world, helps a lot. If you don’t have a friend to call then get online and find a parenting forum or chat via twitter…you are bound to find someone who understands.
Do something nice for your kids
When things have hit rock bottom around here, going out of my way to do something nice for my family is usually the last thing on my mind, but it can really help to break the cycle of doom and gloom. Plan a movie night or a picnic or an after school treat, purposely ignore any little niggly things that might happen, just for a little while, and focus only on making it something extra fun for your family. Odds on you’ll feel good about it too.
Just keep going.
That phrase ‘this too shall pass’ should be tattooed on every new parents arm with instructions to look at it whenever you feel lost, frustrated or depressed. Because nothing lasts forever and if you can just hang on a little long, if you can just keep going, eventually this bad patch will pass and there will be light at the end of the tunnel.
How do you get through a bad patch?
Please leave a comment and share your words of wisdom.
I’ve decided I need to spend a bit of time intentionally working on becoming a better parent right now… so you’ll see a few more of these types of posts pop up on Thursdays.
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