Hope for a struggling Mum - Have your kids ever had an epic public meltdown? Did anyone offer you hope?

We went to Healesville Sanctuary during the holidays, it’s a fabulous zoo which just has Australian animals.

We haven’t been for a while, in fact Noah has never been, and the last time we were there Morgan was so little he can’t remember it. There is a reason for that. The last trip I took to Healsville kinda traumatised me.

It was a hot January day the last time I visited Healesville. I decided it would be a great idea to pack my best friend and our kids into the big white bus and drive two hours on a windy road for a day out. Did I mention that my friend happened to be gazillion weeks pregnant with her third baby?

Five kids under six, two prams, and two sleep deprived mothers.
What could possibly go wrong?

Everything.

It started with a toddler who cried the entire drive there (yep the whole two hours without a break), included lots of whining kids, birds who stole sandwiches, and ended with a public melt down of epic proportions.

It has gone down in our history as one of those bad bad parenting days. Every now and then one of us will say ‘remember the day we went to Healesville?’ and we both shudder.

But for some reason I decided it was time to try again, so we went, just my kids and me.

While the drive was still long, the kids were older and less prone to drawn out car tantrums. The weather was cold instead of hot but we managed to avoid any scary birds stealing our lunch. We wandered around the zoo (without a pram!), checked out the animals, saw the bird show, and watched the barn owls being fed. It was lovely.

Hope for a struggling Mum - Have your kids ever had an epic public meltdown? Did anyone offer you hope?

As the day ended I felt like I had put the demons of that past to rest. It had been a good parenting day.

As we headed to the gift shop for quick look on the way out I heard a blood curdling scream, and then howling. It stopped me in my tracks, gave me a sudden flash back to that hot day all those years ago when we dragged crying complaining kids out to the car and vowed to never ever return.

And then I saw her…

A mother standing helpless as one of her children lay on the ground at her feet thrashing about and screaming. Another little child was stamping her foot and jumping up and down beside her sister, she was also screaming.

I wondered what I could do to help.

I knew I couldn’t fix whatever her children were struggling with, but maybe somehow I could make her feel a little better?

Or maybe I was better to just say and do nothing, she already seemed embarrassed and close to tears herself. I never like it when complete strangers try to give me advice when my kids are having a public tantrum. Better if I just didn’t intefere.

People were walking past the wailing children and their tired mum scowling and tut tutting. That made me sad. Then I saw a mother point and say to her child in a loud voice “You would NEVER do that would you! I would never let you do that!” That changed my mind.

As we walked past I smiled at the defeated mother who just stood watching her kids melt down at her feet and I said

“I remember a day when my kids lost it in this very spot and I dragged them to the car screaming… it gets better as they get bigger.”

She smiled back at me briefly and I walked on. That was it.

There was nothing I could do to fix the situation but I hope that at least for a brief moment she didn’t feel totally alone. I hope she knew that not everyone was judging her and labeling her a bad mother. I hope she knew that she wasn’t the only one who’s kids have ever had an epic meltdown in a public place. I hope she knew, just for a moment, that things would get better.

I hope the next time one of my kids has a whopper tantrum in public that instead of unwanted, judgmental advice, that someone offers me a smile, and a little hope that things will get better.

Have your kids ever had an epic meltdown in public?
Have you ever been given unwanted advice?
Have you ever had someone offer hope and a smile?

 

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Fun Food Play Dough Mats

July 22, 2014

Fun Food! Free Printable Play Dough Mats (They make great place mats too!)

It’s funny how things happen.

It started when we resurfaced our old dining table and I decided we needed place mats to protect the table a little, and that lead to me making some simple laminated place mats to help my big kids remember how to set the table.

But as soon as Noah saw the place mats his eyes twinkled and he said “Can I make a play dough dinner for that plate?”

And that is how my place mats turned into play dough mats!

Of course I couldn’t stop at just one, so I made a whole set of fun food play dough mats.

There is a cake stand so you can make and decorate a fabulous play dough cake.

Fun Food! Free Printable Play Dough Mats (They make great place mats too!)

Download the ‘Make a Cake’ play dough mat here.

And a sundae dish for making a yummy ice cream sundae!

Fun Food! Free Printable Play Dough Mats (They make great place mats too!)

Download the ‘Make an Ice Cream Sundae’ play dough mat here.

And lastly there’s the dinner mat, which doubles as a great place mat if you happen need one!

Fun Food! Free Printable Play Dough Mats (They make great place mats too!)

Download the ‘What’s for Dinner?’ play dough mat here.

Just print out the fun food play dough mats and laminate or cover each one in self adhesive paper and you are ready to make your own fun food creations.

Fun Food! Free Printable Play Dough Mats (They make great place mats too!)

These also work great with dry erase markers or crayons.

And now I need to make some actual place mats too!

We used the lovely soft early stART First Dough given to us as part of my ongoing partnership with Micador.

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