Yep, and you all thought we lived just outside of Melbourne on a quiet little farmlet right?
Wrong!
Somehow my house has been miraculously moved from in between the pine trees and cows to TANTRUM CITY!
A good majority of the last few days have been spent with one or other, or both, of my children on the floor, screaming and wailing, with snot dripping off their chins and tears streaming down their cheeks.
Why? Well most of the time I have no idea. Sometimes it revolves around someone doing something to someone else that the else doesn’t like. Pushing, shoving, refusing to put on the TV or allow jam eating straight from the jar.. little things like that. On the odd occasion it is over something very worthwhile… something I’d throw a tantrum over too if I could. Your sister biting you on the bum (yes! I am serious!) or sitting on your head with no nappy on, stuff that matters. Often it is about stuff I really don’t understand.
“I don’t want to do anything…. waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa I want to do something!”
“what do you want to do?”
“nothing”
“ok“
“noooooooo I want to do something!!! waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa“
Bearing in mind that they have both had gastro and now have wicked colds, complete with major snots and nasty asthma coughs I am trying to be nice. I am trying to be understanding. I am trying to figure out how to do something while doing nothing! Yet often I find myself saying not so hot things like ‘fine then, do nothing and something and just sit there and cry’ … ooops… there goes another less than stellar parenting moment down in history!
Lee says
Sometimes your descriptions are a little to vivid, especially the snot bit LOL!
Nah I think that is a perfectly acceptable parenting moment!
Your a great Mum, but you gotta write a book! LOL
fazzbech says
Well you are only human Kate, and we all have our moments. Your girls will be back to their angelic selves in no time I’m sure! ;)
Anonymous says
You can’t calculate and control every response to your children. A heart felt response gives them a direct message, in this case frustration and they need to learn to deal with all sorts of interactions in their lives. I think you are are a perfect parent particularly when you work on instinct. G.J.
Angela says
Awww.. hugs Kate. I can only imagine what it must be like with two of them. You are a fantastic mum, and I can remember saying some very similar things lol.
Write that book :)
Anonymous says
OMG! Hugs to you!!! While I’m dealing with something similar here, it’s only been a recent occurrence for me, it’s not a toddler thing – luckily I had my toddlers born at seperate times, so they were both feeling frustrated and overwhelmed at the same time (I think this is definitely one of those “having twins/multiples is harder” things)…
You know, if it helps at all, when they’re wailing they probably don’t even register that you’ve said anything “not-so-supportive” because they’re in a “zone” – at least this is how my two were during toddlerhood… – Sif
Lis says
Hope today is a better day :)
Zebette says
I sooooooo hear you on the twin tantrum thing, though I confess Scar is the tantrum thrower and Joe is more quietly defiant, not to worry as Scar throws more than enough tantrums per day for both of them!
Yes our tantrums also range from biting issues, TV shows, non-sharing of toys, someone’s fave spot on the sofa has been stolen, someone pushed someone else etc etc It seems never ending..and I am having more than my share of crap parenting moments too!
Hope you feel better knowing I completely understand where you are coming from!