#1 “Oh you’re having another baby!”
Said with either total and utter shock and surprise or a slight tone of sympathy and confusion. I find it’s easier to go with the expected response so I usually just reply “Yes… I am totally insane” and leave it at that.
#2 “Are you sure it’s not twins again?”
Ah if I had a dollar for every time someone has said that in the last month or so…. This one is usually said as a joke, or with genuine fear and concern for us, and I know it’s actually a semi-reasonable question to ask but I just can’t help myself, I have to give people a crash course in twins.
“I know it is somewhat common to have a second set of fraternal twins because if you have the genetic tendency to ovulate twice in a cycle, then it is likely that you might do it on more than one occasion. But our girls are identical twins. They are a freak of nature. No one knows why their single fertilised egg decided to split a couple of days down the track and the chance of it happening again is really, really low. Like one in 70 000 low. I checked well before I decided to have more kids.”
#3 “When are you due?”
This a totally reasonable question to ask. People are curious about how pregnant I am (the already flabby belly makes it hard to guess) and they want to know what time of year, during what events etc the baby will be born. But I can’t help but give a vague answer. I’ve given birth twice, once 11 weeks from my due date and once 2 and half weeks from my due date… I have absolutely no reason to expect this baby will read the calendar and decide to come out any time around the magical 40 week mark.
Sometimes I want to answer “I have no idea, your guess is as good as mine” but that makes me sound like a crazy freak woman who has no idea how pregnant she is. So generally I give a vague ‘sometime around the end of June or the beginning of July’ answer, because really I have no darn clue!
Some days I am very thankful for my flabby belly and my low lying baby because I don’t look pregnant so I only have to field these questions from friends and family (who already know I am insane) rather than random strangers on the street… yet.
Did you get any recurring comments or questions while pregnant? Come up with any snappy responses?
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