Do you ever feel like parenting is just too hard sometimes?
You are not alone, and you are not a bad parent.
We all fee like parenting is too hard sometimes. We all wonder how we are going to cope sometimes. We all feel like giving up sometimes.
It’s just that we don’t always share those hard moments, so sometimes it feels like everyone else is coping just fun, and it’s only us who are feeling hopeless and overwhelmed.
Hopefully this story of when I was ready to give up, and what I did to get through will help you feel a little less alone when parenting gets hard.
Just when I thought I had it all under control…
Just when I thought I’d gotten on top of this crazy busy week…
Just when I thought we’d gotten through the hard part…
That’s when he started vomiting.
After a long and exhausting day came an endless night.
By the time he stopped throwing up the sun was about to rise
As I curled up in bed trying to catch a few hours of sleep before I had to face another day I couldn’t stop thinking about everything I had to do that day. I couldn’t stop thinking about everything I still needed to do this week, and everything that was piling up between now until Christmas, and it made me want to cry.
All I could think was ‘it’s too hard’.
It’s too hard.
I don’t know how to juggle everything.
I’m so tired of trying so hard to make everything work and still messing up, or disappointing someone.
It’s too hard.
Every day there seems to be yet another thing to add to the calendar, another kid crisis to deal with, another opportunity we can’t miss, another load of laundry.
Just when I think I am top of things, something new pops up.
It’s too hard.
I know this time of year is notoriously busy for our family and I tried to make sure I was organised and on top of things, but still I am not coping
I feel like a failure.
Instead of sleeping I let all those feelings wash over me, and I cried.
With my boy sleeping on a makeshift bed of towels on the floor beside me, with the smell of vomit, disinfectant, and gastrolyte in the air, when I should have been grabbing whatever sleep I could, I cried.
I just needed to feel those feelings for a while, because parenting is hard.
Sometimes parenting is joyful and inspirational and wonderful, but a lot of the time it is relentless, and lonely, and hard.
Brushing it aside, ignoring those feelings, that doesn’t help. Sometimes we need to acknowledge them, to just feel them for a while, till they are a little less huge, less scary, less powerful.
Because parenting is hard, but that doesn’t mean we are doing it wrong.
And so we pick ourselves up, we drag ourselves out of bed, and we start another day.
If you are a single parent and finding things difficult, this story about being a single Mum and why it’s not easy might help you feel a little less alone too.
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