Can I cry for a minute about wee?
I just want to take a little moment and channel Zoe for a moment… this is the part where I stamp my foot, pout and scream ‘it’s not fair!’ several times….
It’s not fair! It’s not fair! It’s not fair!!!!
I have three children in nappies and it’s not bloody fair!
Ok so technically the girls are only in nappies at night, but they are still in nappies. And when I hear of another friend’s child ready to toilet learn, or friends having success with elimination communication or a three year old who is night trained … well I just wanna cry.
I wanna cry for all the money we spend on pull-ups that don’t even contain all the wee.
I wanna cry for all the pyjamas I wash, not to mention the sheets.
I wanna cry for the times when the girls stand out as different when putting on their nappies.
I wanna cry for me and for my girl’s.
I’m not blaming the girls for not being night trained.. it’s not their fault, it’s not my fault… it’s not anyone’s fault. It just is.
They just aren’t ready…. physically they can’t manage it. They can’t hold on to that much wee for that long and they can’t wake themselves up to wee. It’s not because they don’t want to, or because they are lazy… it’s because they can’t.
They were older than average when they finally got the hang of using the toilet during the day and it took a long, long, long time and a LOT of puddles on the floor before it all clicked. So really I am not surprised that they are still not night trained at five and half years old. Everything points to the fact that in this area (and others) they are just taking longer to mature.
Before you tell me the secret to getting the girls out of nappies… don’t.
I’ve read up on this, I even studied it at uni and I know no matter how many bribes I give or promises I make, it isn’t going to change things. Waking them up in the night and taking them to the toilet also isn’t going to change anything. I know this because we’ve tried…. yes, even the bribe thing and I am so anti bribes and reward charts.
I’m not looking for answers…. I just need to cry for a little ok…. anyone got a free shoulder?