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Be Wonderful

Posted on November 1, 2010 13 Comments

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If you follow me on Twitter or Facebook you might have guessed that last week wasn’t one of the best at the Pickle Farm.

The days would start out ok, but then I’d be left dazed and disoriented, pondering with amazement at how quickly things turned from ‘all good’ to ‘off to hell in a hand basket’.

It seems we all went insane at the same time.

The Big Girls decided that it would be perfectly ok to have a water fight, upstairs, at their grandparents’ house. A few days later there was an incident involving yoghurt, finger painting and windows, and then one which resulted in a favourite piece of clothing being shredded, and so it went on.

The Middle Child has been practising his left hook and has taken to throwing things, like apples, cups of water, pencils and poopey nappies.

The baby has been busy perfecting his projectile vomiting skills. He has suddenly decided that sleeping is not for him any more and there is a vague possibility that teeth might be some where on the horizon. (Now I’ve said that, he’ll still be toothless and chewing my nipples off when he’s one I’m sure.)

The Father Figure has been off financing his bike fetish and spending a good deal of time appeasing the goddess of wifeliness by ordering various major structures for the renovations – so for the most part it has just been me and the ferals.

And Me?
Well I’ve been doing my narna a lot, loosing the plot often, and going totally insane. I’ve become the kind of mother who parents with ever increasing outbursts of yelling, a fair bit of whinging (almost as much as the girls do), and continuous idle threats that we all know I am not going to follow through on. When I am not using those fabulous parenting tools I am using the even better skill of ignoring everyone and everything till I can’t possibly ignore them any more, and then blowing my stack.

Yep, life’s darn good down on the farm, y’all.

Obviously something had to give.

By Friday I’d made some executive decisions.
I had a little review of what was reasonable to expect in terms of behaviour for each age of our kids. I decided that the girls would stay home from school on Monday (Tuesday is a public holiday here), and that for the first part of the weekend we’d make no plans.

I had a little chat to the big girls about why I’d found their behaviour so difficult during the week. I had a little chat with the middle child about being gentle, and I had a somewhat one sided discussion with the sleeping baby about why it would be beneficial to all of us if he went back to his old long sleeping self. Then I had a little chat with myself.

You see I have a theory….

If I try to change the way I behave then the kids will all follow suit and try to change the way they behave. If I can stop with the reactive ranting and raving, if I can give up the lectures and threats and promises, if I do better, then they will do better.

So this weekend we all tried to ‘be wonderful’.

For the kids, ‘being wonderful’ meant speaking nicely to everyone, looking after our home and our things, being gentle, listening to each other, talking about problems and asking for help.

For me, ‘being wonderful’ meant speaking nicely (not yelling or lecturing), being present and/or coming as soon as I can when asked, providing lots of good food and water, saying yes if at all possible and joining in.

If things got a little out of hand or someone forgot to speak nicely, instead of threatening or yelling, I simply said “remember to be wonderful.” Those few words were enough to remind whoever it was to stop and re-think, even if that someone was me.

Sometimes things still ended up down the toilet, but more often than not ‘being wonderful’ was enough to keep us all on the straight and narrow.

So the first half of our long weekend has not been perfect but it has been better, so much better. And considering it’s been me and the picklebums stuck inside while it has rained and rain, I’m more than happy with ‘better’. Hopefully the rest of the weekend and life in general will continue to be a little more ‘wonderful’ from here on in…. well, at least until the next time things turn feral, because there is always a little feral on the horizon around here!

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  1. Jess says

    You are awesome. I have so been there this past week or so, must be something in the air. Will be taking a leaf out of your book this week xxoo

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  2. Christie says

    What a wise and wonderful mama you are. Thank you for the reminder to “speaking nicely (not yelling or lecturing), being present and/or coming as soon as I can when asked, providing lots of good food and water, saying yes if at all possible and joining in.” I needed to hear that today :)

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  3. Super Sarah says

    I think it must be something in the air, we have had a rough old time of it recently and decided to take off this weekend and get out of town. We all promised to be nicer to each other, less shouting, more fun and it worked. I completely agree though, I am often the problem and if I just focused more on the girls and less on the housework/laptop/clock we would all be happier!

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  4. keepcatebusy (Cate) says

    Well done – I think I will put ‘be wonderful’ on our message board (especially after the performance in the supermarket today which was not so wonderful). But, big smiles everyone…tomorrow is cup day – yay!!

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  5. Trish says

    Some days it is hard (hugs) to keep all the balls in the air.

    I love that manta ‘Be wonderful’
    Gorgeous picture.
    I need to have that little chat with myself too x …love your advice to you and all of us struggling wonderful mums.

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  6. granma Jill says

    As my wise Mum once said “Nothing in life is perfect” . Let me know if there is anything I can do to help.

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  7. [email protected] says

    It’s always at the Grandparent’s house, right? although, in my case, sometimes at my sisters house (who has perfectly behaved children – 3- and a perfectly organised house. Seriously.) And we can’t even drink. Fabulous photo by the way.

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  8. Pixie says

    It is a hard job……….esp with 4 different little people all pulling at you at the same time.

    Fab ideas about being wonderful…

    gorgeous pic too!!

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  9. disydoit says

    great post very well placed words that I know I need reminding of from time to time. (and a little bit more after holiday with extended family really stretched my ability to be cool calm collected and wonderful). wow you have your hands full. I suspect you have very high tolerance levels!

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  10. Kell says

    I am hearing you LOUD and clear with this post. It seems my twinnie cherubs have joined forces this week to send mummy insane!….hehe. Thanks for the lovely reminder that our house is ‘normal’. Love your blog!

    Kell @ http://1000homesofhappiness.blogspot.com/

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  11. Melbourne Mumma says

    Gorgeous photo of your kids. I can really relate to this post. Sometimes I have to stop and remind myself what I can really expect from young kids (especially my 4yo)…sometimes I know my expectations are too high. Thanks for the reminder and nice to read we all feel like this sometimes! ps. will add you to my blogroll. Alison x

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