If you have a child who is struggling with anxiety you might be able to relate to this parent’s feelings…
I hate anxiety.
I know your mother probably told you that ‘hate is a strong word’. She might have even looked disapprovingly when you used it.
But I don’t care.
I know it’s not helpful to hate it, but I do.
I hate my child’s anxiety.
I hate it. I hate it. I hate it!
I hate that is stops my child from doing everything they want to do
I hate that it has stolen big chunks of their childhood.
I hate that it doesn’t respond to logic, or explanation, or reasonable discussion.
I hate that it steals control from them, from me, from us.
I hate that it’s voice is so deafeningly loud that it drowns out everything else.
I hate that because you can’t see it, and because it’s hard to talk about, it is hard for others to understand, and that gives it more power.
I hate that is takes control physically at times. I hate that it makes them sick, or not be able to breath, or not be able to move, or see.
I hate that it takes away friendships.
I hate that it labels them as difficult, or annoying, or rude, or badly behaved.
And I hate that I hate it.
I hate that it frustrates me so much and that it makes me angry.
I am angry at the anxiety, not at my child, but sometimes the two get mixed up and I hate it even more for that.
Have you got a child who is dealing with some big emotions?
You are not alone.
Here are some more resources and stories about childhood mental health :
Nikki says
Just Thank you!
Chris Smarsh says
We hate anxiety as well.
Anni Smith says
I hate this with my whole body mind and soul – but I hate it even more that there are no help or support for us to help our kids! The useless helpless feeling just continues and becomes effective in so many ways …
Di says
Thanks Kate xxx
I hate it too but keep focusing on the big picture and leave the school gate gossip behind.
Sam says
I hate my child’s anxiety.
That he doesn’t feel as safe with me as with his mom. That he is so afraid to say goodbye to anyone.I hate that I am second to his anxiety.
I wish I could kill it.
Destroy it.
But I must open to love and patience.
Not easy.
katepickle says
Oh that all sounds so tough… but I am sure you are still is safe place, you are the person who loves him unconditionally, regardless of how the anxiety makes him behave. Hang in there, and keep loving him and loving him some more, you are doing a great job.