Lets do an experiment.
Just for a day, put your kids before everything else.
Chose your kids before a clean house, before deadlines, before phone calls.
Put them first
I don’t mean that you should spend every second focused on your kids, or that you should plan lavish events, or jump through hoops to keep them entertained, or let go of ever rule or limit… but when they ask for something, stop what you are doing and attend to them first. When you see an opportunity to interact, take it. When you can meet a request, even if it is out of the ordinary, or takes some effort, do it. When you see a moment to lavish them with love, do it.
I know you can’t always do that.
I know there are some things you need to get done, and other things you want to do, I know that you and your needs are important, and I know there is a little voice in the back of your head telling you it is a bad thing to ‘spoil’ your child… but is it?
Just for today, or tomorrow, or sometime next week, pick a day, clear your schedule, and put your kids first, for the whole day, and see what happens.
What happens on the day?
How do you feel during the day?
How do your kids behave?
How do you feel at the end of the day?
What happens in the days after that?
Is anything different? Did you learn anything?
I think my family needs this right now so I am picking a day when I can make this a priority.
If you try this out or have any thoughts, I’d love to hear from you – leave a comment on this post so we can chat :)