The beginning of the new year always seems fill with such potential and optimism. I’m trying to catch those positive feelings and keep them hostage at the Pickle Farm for the rest of the year.
One of the things I am trying to keep up with is saying yes to my kids more often.
Many times my brain throws out an automatic ‘no’ without really thinking it through first. I think, ‘that will be messy, or loud, or take a long time, or not what I had planned for this morning’ – so I say No. With a little thought, perhaps a little effort on my part, I could manage most of those issues and say yes more often. And really, it is much more fun for everyone if I say yes!
Muski asks to paint a lot when the girls are at school…. and usually I say no. It takes forever to put paints in pots and find brushes, to get out the easel or to set up a space at the table. It takes even longer to clean up an enthusiastic three year olds painting mishaps.
“One day when the weather is better we’ll set it up outside” I tell him.
“When your brother is asleep, then we’ll do it” I say.
But it never happens.
But now it will.
All three big kids got new paints for Christmas.
We already have heaps of paints but these are different. These sets of water colour disks don’t require much effort to set up, and don’t make much mess either. They even come with their own paint brush. Muski, who’s three and a half, can set himself up to paint, getting a cup of water and popping on his apron. He can pack up on his own too.
We’ve tried ‘el cheapo’ paint sets but the colours were never very satisfying and the paints crumbled and broke. So I spent a little more on these, but they were still less than $7 a set, and the colours are vibrant and strong and they are a pleasure to paint with. I wish I had bought myself some too.
But the most important thing is…. I’ve set myself up to be able to say yes more.
“Can we paint today mum?”
Is there something you often say no to that you could change into a yes with a bit of pre-planning?