You know how you always put everyone else first?
You know… the way that your needs and wants are always shoved to the bottom of the list because making sure everyone else is happy and healthy is more important.
Yeah, sure, you know logically that you need to take care of yourself in order to be able to take care of everyone and everything else, but in reality, there just never seems to be enough time, and your ‘things’ don’t seem quite so important when you stare down that mile long To Do list.
Or is it just me that falls into this pattern again and again?
It’s not that I don’t think I am worthwhile. It is not that I don’t think looking after myself is important. It’s not even that I think I am the only one who can possibly take care of everything in my family. It’s just that when I get busy, I forget all of that and it’s just easier to drop my things off the list rather than try and work out another way.
But it’s not a good thing. I leads to me being stressed, and run down and I know that by not looking after myself I am not setting the example I’d like to for my children.
I have to change things. I want to change things. But change can seem, huge and scary and impossible when you already feel stretched to your limits. So, inspired by some friends on Twitter, I am going to take baby steps and just go with some small changes. Just three, small changes to be exact.
Three For me!
The ‘three for me’ idea is simple. I have written a list of things that I need to do to take care of myself. The things on the list vary from easy to more difficult, from things for my health to things for my well being, and things just for pure enjoyment. Each day I am going to do three things off that list.
Sure, some things on that list are things I should do every day anything, but that’s the idea, I want this to be achievable. I want to be more aware of my own needs, and to value them more. I want to get to the end of the day and feel good about myself, not beat myself up for not managing to do everything on my list. So the idea is that this is simple and easy.
My list looks a little like this:
Three For Me
- drink water
- eat fruit and veg
- read a book
- time alone
- walk and/or run
- spend time outside
- bed by 10pm
- be thankful
- shower exercises
- music for me
So who’s with me?
Who needs to take just a little bit of time each day to take care of themselves?
Who can fit in just three things a day, three things just for you?