Limit Setting Blues

Parenting Secret #37: It's ok for your kids not to like the limit you set.

Parenting secret #37 – It’s ok for your kids not to like the limit you set. So you’ve set a limit, you’ve remained calm, you’ve explained in a clear and concise manner, and you are standing firm… and then your child loses it. They yell, and scream, and say you are the worst parent ever […]

Holding Close and Letting Go

Parenting is all about keeping our kids close, and at the same time letting them go.  This is the paradox of parenting.

Parenting is all about keeping our kids close, and at the same time letting them go. This is the paradox of parenting. We need to hold our kids close. We need support them and love them unconditionally. We need to always provide a safe place for them to return to. We need to build a […]

Love Them Anyway

Love Them Anyway - "above all else, a parent’s job is to love their child, to love them in spite of the frustration."

I love them so much, yet they frustrate me like nothing else on this earth. When the frustration boils over I feel like I am failing, but there, in the background, the love is always lurking. I know that above all else, a parent’s job is to love their child, to love them in spite […]

Compromise is Not the Same as Giving In

Compromise is not the same as giving in - learning to compromise as a parent,

“Be consistent.” That advice rang in my ears often in the early years of parenting. Be consistent. Make a decision and stick to it. Do not waiver. Do not change your mind. Be firm. Be strong. It’s still good advice, but somewhere in the battle to be firm and consistent I somehow made compromise the […]

Forgiving Our Parenting Mistakes

Forgiving Our Parenting Mistakes - forgiving does not mean you have to like what happened, but I challenge you to let it go.

I used to think that to forgive meant that things that had happened in the past, sad, difficult, angry things, had to somehow magically become ok. I used to think that I had to find some magical way to be happy with those things, those issues or circumstances before I could forgive them. Now I’ve […]

How I Know I’m Doing Ok as A Parent…

What if we stopped defining out parenting by the hard moments, and started noticing all the little things that show us we are doing ok...

It’s easy to let the ‘should haves’ and the guilt overwhelm you. It’s easy to the let the things that go wrong seem so much bigger and more important than the things that go right. It’s easy to let all the times you’ve been grumpy, or busy, or stressed, or anything but perfect, define you […]

Change Your Tone – Moving from Negative to Positive Language

Change Your Tone - moving from negative to positive speech with our kids is a positive parenting tool that can have great effect s

Saying ‘no’ to our kids is not the end of the world, in fact, sometimes it is just what your child needs to hear. A firm ‘no’ can have a precise impact at times when you really need it to, but if you are trying to get your child to listen to an explanation, or […]

In this moment

In this moment... I might be a bad parent, or I might be the best parent I can be for my child

I hear his quick little footsteps across the wood floor, then I see his little face pop around the edge of the half opened door. “What are you doing here?” I ask him. “I’m not fweepy” he tells me. I frown at him… It’s late, everyone else is in bed, if not asleep, and I […]