Two and a half seems to be the magical age when my kids suddenly stop listening.
Suddenly Noah has joined the ranks of his brothers and sister and it seems I have to ask him three times and then resort to yelling before he will listen!
Or do I?
Here’s fifteen things I am going to do to help my kids to listen…
I’m going to talk less
I’m going to get up, go over to my child, make eye contact and then talk.
I am going to use positive language and tell them what they can do, not what they can’t do.
I’m going to have appropriate expectations.
I’m going to keep it short and to the point. The younger the child the shorter the message.
If my request is non-negotiable I will make sure my language reflects that. No asking ‘can you get in the bath please’.
If my request is negotiable I will offer simple choices to the toddler, more complex choices for the five year old and ask the nine year olds for their input.
I will say it again and again for the toddler, because it takes a lot of repetition before things sink into a two year old brain.
I will try not to yell.
If at all possible I will wait until my child is finished what they are doing.
I will stick around long enough to make sure they are following through… no yelling a request then walking off.
I will be a good listener and model the behaviour I’d like to see.
I will use written reminders, calendars and lists for the older kids so I don’t have to nag so much.
I will sing (possibly like an opera singer) or ask for co-operating in funny or creative ways… ‘Can you slither like a snake to the bath?’
If all else fails I will take a deep breath, realise this is totally normal, and start all over again.
How do you get your kids to listen?
I’ve decided I need to spend a bit of time intentionally working on becoming a better parent right now… so you’ll see a few more of these types of posts pop up on Thursdays.
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