Be Thankful.

Parenting Secret #19 - Be thankful... it can have a big impact on parenting.

“What are the magic words?” My twins were three when a family member asked them this question, trying to encourage them to say thank you. They both stopped and thought for a moment, and then replied… “Abracadabra!” I am not one to force or coerce my kids into saying please and thank you, which is […]

An Apology to my Children.

An Apology to my Children...

I’m sorry. I’m sorry for all the times I have not said something I should have. For when I have not said how proud I am, how happy I am, how awesome you are, or how sad I am. I’m sorry for all the times I have said too much. For when I have babbled […]

It’s Not Your Job To Make Your Kids Happy

Parenting Secret #15 - It's not your job to make your kids happy all the time

What is the one thing you wish for your children? If someone asked this question, I’m guessing many of us would say that above all else, we want our kids to be happy. It seems like such a simple thing, but happiness is a BIG call. To be mostly happy is a great goal. To […]

Breaking the Rules

Breaking the rules...

It’s 10:46 pm and my middle child and I are passing notes to each other. I feel like I am being bad, like I am breaking the rules of parenting… He casually walks into the study where I am working on the computer, pretends I am not here, and leaves a note on my keyboard. […]

What do you do when your kids don’t like Santa?

What do you do if your kids don't like Santa?

I’m standing in the middle of the shopping centre, holding a squirming 6 month old baby while my toddler twins try to crawl up my legs and hide under my shirt. Both girls are crying, shaking their heads, and desperately trying to get away. I stagger backwards, away from the source of their fear, but […]

Limit Setting Blues

Parenting Secret #37: It's ok for your kids not to like the limit you set.

Parenting secret #37 – It’s ok for your kids not to like the limit you set. So you’ve set a limit, you’ve remained calm, you’ve explained in a clear and concise manner, and you are standing firm… and then your child loses it. They yell, and scream, and say you are the worst parent ever […]

Holding Close and Letting Go

Parenting is all about keeping our kids close, and at the same time letting them go.  This is the paradox of parenting.

Parenting is all about keeping our kids close, and at the same time letting them go. This is the paradox of parenting. We need to hold our kids close. We need support them and love them unconditionally. We need to always provide a safe place for them to return to. We need to build a […]

Love Them Anyway

Love Them Anyway - "above all else, a parent’s job is to love their child, to love them in spite of the frustration."

I love them so much, yet they frustrate me like nothing else on this earth. When the frustration boils over I feel like I am failing, but there, in the background, the love is always lurking. I know that above all else, a parent’s job is to love their child, to love them in spite […]